Of all the things that we humans do well, being alone is not one of them. We have this thing about it, that it just might be the worst thing in the world. Most of us wouldn't dare sit at a table for one and eat a meal with only ourselves. No, no.... that wouldn't look good. That would look lonely. And we don't want to look lonely.
So we take out our cell phones and talk cheerfully to the silence on the other end. We flip open a book whose pages don't turn, but rather stay as a centerpiece to keep our attention from meeting the eyes of others who are sitting happily with others. We gulp down our meal in hopes that this spare time will go by quickly and our solitude will go unnoticed.
So what is it about being with ourselves that is so wrong? Well, I'm not really sure, because personally, I like it. Of course I certainly enjoy the company of others and look forward to meeting with friends, but if I find myself accompanied by only me, I am perfectly okay with that too. I figure if I'm not comfortable enough with myself to be in my own presence, then how can I hope that others would enjoy spending time with me? Besides, I get my best thinking done when I'm alone. I find that some of my best conversations in life are those I've had with myself in my own head.
I came across this video the other day which puts this whole "being alone" thing into perspective, so I hope you can take a few minutes to view it. Fittingly, it's called "How to be Alone" and I think you'll find it quite refreshing...
I just love this little video. So many of the things said in here are just right on, and so for today's featured quote, I chose to feature one of the verses from the poem...
"'Cuz if you're happy in your head then solitude is blessed and alone is okay." -How to be AloneI like this verse in particular because I think it's so important to be happy in your own head. Once we have achieved this, we will find that being alone is a freedom that we should take advantage of more often. So if you find yourself in a moment of solitude, "resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone", relax, and enjoy the peace that you can bring to your own life. I hope this inspires you to welcome "alone time" in your life, or if nothing else, to stop dreading being by yourself.
I'd love if you would share your thoughts on this video and/or on your perspective on being alone. Feel free to leave comments below!